Kaneisha February 22, 2010 at 2:23 am

@Susie: Your thinking is spot on here. Your guy is jerking your heart around like a yo-yo–not because he is a bad person, but because he is making decisions from a place of fear rather than confidence and love. You have so much going on in your life right now and should really focus on your own inner healing. As wonderful as he may be, his indecision is bringing too much stress and strife into your life. Why not keep him at arm’s length for a few months while you focus on you and your priorities–one of which I hope will be counseling. You will see him in dance class, and you can be cordial to him and say hello, but don’t take any more of his calls or reply to his texts. I know this is a short answer to a very long and heartfelt question, but it’s because the solution is quite simple: FOCUS ON YOU. Don’t worry that you’ll never find another love. This guy will shape up once he sees what he’s losing or another man will come along. The priority right now is to make sure that you get your heart, mind, and spirit back in order so that you can love you before trying to love anyone else. Thank you for reading and sharing your concern. REPLY

Susie February 24, 2010 at 12:58 am

Thanks you so much Kaneisha! Sometimes I have trouble seeing from both sides and I know you are right. I do need to give him a break and focus on myself as if I am not happy and at peace with my life, I will never be happy or have a sucessful relationship. I have been through a lot and I think I that was causing stress in our relationship. I know he is afraid of getting hurt and his way of dealing with it is pulling away…but then he ends up hurting me. This is my year and I am going to address my issues before I can move on to our issues.

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